Hate the backstabbers but they are everywhere, almost found at every of your job, whether you like it or not. One thing good about being a freelancer is that I don’t deal with backstabbers or office politics no more. However, as I hear stories from my friends as they poured their frustrations on these evil colleagues over our weekly luncheons, I couldn’t help but pity them. You can only ignore them for so long so the only right thing to do is to beat them at their own game. When being attack, you need to be defensive. Here are some ways you can beat the backstabbers (not with your fists) in the office.
Be Better Than They Thought You Are
More than often, the backstabbers don’t measure up their skills against you. Come on, if they are good in the first place, they wouldn’t need to feel threatened enough to want to harm you. They probably will be too busy to do so. Hence, it is pretty easy to be way better than they are. That way they have absolutely nothing to complain against you and move on to their next victim.
Anticipate Their Moves
Backstabbers love to watch their victim every move in order to catch them unaware. If you are able to anticipate that a backstabber is going behind your back and to your superiors, prepped yourself to be ready to answer any questions about your job when asked. This will frustrate and thwart his evil intent.
Have A Strong Backer Or Two
After working in a company for a year, you bound to have mentors or at least leaders who believe in your work and trust your words. I am never afraid of backstabbers because I know I have plenty of reliable folks who will vouch for my work without a single hesitation.
Be Confident In Yourself
Don’t let the ugly words or actions of the backstabbers affect your performance. If you are good in your work, believe it! Backstabbers often lurk and leach onto low self-esteem victims because it made them feel powerful when they are able to make someone else powerless and look stupid in front of higher authorities.
The thing about backstabbers – they are often insecure folks who feel their roles are being overshadowed by others. Instead of imploring themselves and working hard at improving their skills, the shortcut way is to bring someone down to make themselves look good. This is another form of bullying.
Call them out at their own game by confronting them and their antics in front of the management. Often, they are unable to answer for their actions and instead of embarrassing you, they embarrassed themselves. Or ignore them and concentrate on your performance, if the work you produce is excellent, they will just have to eat their own words.
Do you have such evil characters in your workplace? How do you avoid them? Share your tricks in the comments below!
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